I am an introvert. I admit to that. Though it took me a long time to realize my own personality, growing up was kinda confusing for me. I really thought I was different or probably an alien, but I was glad that I came to know myself and learned to accept it in time. I am not crazy. I am not an alien. I am not weird. I am just an introvert.
As an introvert, I get energized when I am alone. I prefer staying at home reading a book or watching a movie. To make it short, I am not the life of the party. I am just plain boring (to some). Being with too many people is physically and mentally draining for me. Yes, I can still speak in front of many people. I made a living out of it (and I think I was awesome) but talking and interacting with people is different from that being a speaker or a teacher.
Sometimes people think that being an introvert is living in total isolation. Well, I am sorry to burst your bubble but no. We can be alive and ready to party when we are with the right kind of people. Introverts tend to go out their own worlds when they are comfortable with the people around them. Yup, we have friends and most of them are extroverts.
No matter how introverted a person is, John Donne, an English poet, once said that no man is an island. We can’t strive in life being isolated from others. I am not talking about work, school, or grocery store interaction but meaningful relationship. We need people to talk on a deeper level. We need someone who can understand us and who can help us make life bearable. We also need to extend or share our lives with others to make their’s meaningful as well. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, an introvert still needs friends. This applies to extroverted people as well. We all need FRIENDS.
“No man is an island.” – John Donne
We need FRIENDS who will tell us that we are wrong, help us when we are down, push us when we need an encouragement, and reminds us of our dreams. We need friends who will accept us for who we are and not judge us.
I thank the Lord for giving me great friends around me right now. Friends who understand my introverted personality. Friends who would tell me things I needed to hear rather than what I want to hear.
“Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” – Proverbs 27:5-6 NIV
I am blessed to have two group of friends that I really enjoy their company very much. I created this post because I want to honor them. I want them to know how their shared lives had made a huge impact in my life. They made mine enjoyable, colorful, and bearable. 😘
The first group is my blogger friends turned friends. We were connected because we are all bloggers living in Cagayan de Oro. Then, later on, we discovered we have a lot of interests in common. Just to name a few, we are all supporter of our current president and share the same faith. I enjoy their company since we can really talk about almost anything under the sun. We share even things that we are afraid to tell others. Aside from that, they understand my introverted persona. They would know that I needed to recharge and then they’ll just leave me alone. They also know when I am being lazy and that when they would call me out. We call ourselves, the Happy TERS Club. This bunch of awesome ladies comes from amazing backgrounds and life stories.
The second group is composed of awesome ladies. We all belong to the same church. We meet every now and then to talk about God’s word and about life. They become one of my closest group of friends because most of us are single moms though we are led by a happily married woman. We draw strength from each other through God’s word. We console each other since we understand how life is hard when you raise kids all alone. We call ourselves… MOMSIES! These ladies are such a blessing.
All these amazing ladies in both groups are ready to give counsel and give sound advice to each other whenever we need one. We call upon each other when we need prayers. I am so blessed to have them all in my life.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” – Proverbs 15:22 NIV
Being an introvert doesn’t mean we need to live our lives isolated and not having friends. We all need friends. We all need REAL friends. In this age of social media, friends are a dime a dozen but having close-knit friends who know the real you is rare. If you have one in your life already, consider yourself blessed.
Ladies, I honor you all. Thank you for your lives. God bless you and I love you all.
Before anything else, I just want everyone to know that I have sincere and meaningful relationships online as well. Most of them are good friends whom I haven’t met in person and some of them I have met once or twice. They are good friends though we might not see each other personally as much as we want. They are precious to me too.